The True Definition Of A Powerful Woman
What Is A Powerful Woman?
Do you love being around powerful women?
I certainly do.
Now, I’m not talking about power-hungry women… that’s different.
Everyone loves to see a powerful woman walk into the room because they make the people around them better.
So what does she look like? She’s someone who…
- Takes responsibility for herself
- Values herself
- Knows who she is
- Is resilient
- Steps outside of her comfort zone to grow
- Says “No” to want she doesn’t want
- Is forward thinking
- Is aware of her gifts, talents and abilities
- Uses her gifts, talents and abilities to lift other people up and empower them
And because a strong woman is confident in who she is, she will move into places where others won’t…
A Powerful Woman Goes To Difficult Places
Ten years ago I injured my neck and was completely debilitated. I was so sore that I couldn’t drive, hold a book or climb the stairs. Every movement brought excruciating pain.
Melis pulled a mattress downstairs so I wouldn’t have to climb the stairs up to our bedroom. I spent a lot of time resting and felt isolated and lonely during this season. At one point, I even thought that this was going to be the rest of my life – and I was only in my 40s! I felt very low.
Then one day, my friend Jill came to visit…
To my surprise, she got down on her knees and then laid on the floor next to me. She came down to my level to talk with me and to keep me company. Other visitors stood over me – I still appreciated their visits – but Jill entered my world on the floor and I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. I felt loved and cared for like I wasn’t alone: I still cry when I think about it.
My mentor calls this the ministry of presence.
In order to be present in another person’s pain or joy, we need to have confidence in our own value and what we can offer. Like my friend, who is a courageous woman with a compassionate heart for others. She connects, even when it means getting down on the floor.
A Powerful Woman Has Strong Character
She knows who she is and Whose she is, just as she knows who she is not. At the same time, she’s still open to growing because she recognizes that there’s always more to learn.
She’s someone that you want on your team because she makes the people around her better to the point where she’s excited when other people succeed…
That can be a really tough one; sometimes it’s easier to support a friend when they’re down than to celebrate in their wins.
What Does A Powerless Woman Look Like?
A powerless woman…
- Feels like a victim
- Waits to be rescued
- Is insecure in her value
- Cannot celebrate with other people’s wins
- Needs to always be the best, smartest and brightest
- Feels threatened by others, especially when they succeed
We all have power but not all of us use our power.
Think about the many examples in movies and stories where the woman simply… Weeps. Wails. And waits to be rescued. She feels powerless to change her fate: there’s the James Bond girls; many, many Disney princesses (except perhaps Elsa and Moana); and Holly Golightly from the classic movie Breakfast at Tiffany’s, to name a few.
Why Is It Hard For Some Women To Embrace Their Power?
I think there are different reasons, one of which is that there are so many examples of power being misused that we become afraid of it.
We don’t want to be that woman who domineers and controls everyone around her…
Someone like the Queen of Hearts in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, who is quick to sentence anyone to death who displeases her in the slightest… Or a bad-tempered and aggressive woman like the formidable Katherina in Shakespeare’s comedy The Taming of the Shrew.
Another reason is that sometimes in Christian circles we’re afraid of the word “power”. We see it as a negative word and go to the other extreme to avoid appearing power hungry or boastful when really, we should be the most empowered people in this world (another word that’s often distrusted is “happiness”).
How We Use Our Power Is A Choice
As women, we don’t need to be afraid of our power; we have the choice of how we use it.
Just as we have the choice of whether we use our power at all or whether we simply give it away.
When we do embrace who we are and what we have to offer to others, then just like the ultimate example of Jesus Christ, we can use our power for so much good: to empower others in our homes, workplaces and communities.
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