5 Important Lessons I Learned From My Mentors

by | Apr 5, 2018 | Personal Growth, Relationships

My Speaking Mentor: Roddy Galbraith from the John Maxwell Team

Everyone Should Have A Mentor

Imagine if we all had mentors from the time we were children…

John C. Maxwell says that “one of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.”

How much further along would we be? How many mistakes could we avoid?

I’ve learned my greatest life lessons from my mentors.

Have you had mentors?

Here are 5 of the most important lessons I’ve learned from my mentors:

Lesson # 1 – People Are Important

My first mentor was my mom.

She had a compassionate, kind heart for hurting people.

She was also a wonderful host: there was always room around the table for one more. Feeding people was her love language.

So after dinner, nothing gave her greater pleasure than to give everyone a takeout dish to take leftovers home.

It was her joy to sit back with my dad after everyone left and count the people they had over for dinner that day. The more people, the more successful the meal.

Lesson # 2 – The Meaning Of Life

My next mentor was a young man who was further along spiritually than I was.

As a 15-year-old, I sat at his desk during history class so I could write him notes. I was in love… he had long blond hair and sharp blue eyes.

However, he told me, “I can’t date you because you’re not a Christian.” Instead, he encouraged me to read the Bible but it may as well have been Greek.

Months later, in frustration, I got down on my knees and prayed, “Lord, you said if I would seek you, I would find you. Well, I’m here looking for you but I can’t find you!”

At that moment, God’s presence came over me. I knew he was real. I knew He was with me.

I met Jesus that day and it changed everything.

(By the way, I did get a date and 3 years later we married.)

Melis showed me who Jesus was and how He could be a part of our everyday lives.

Lesson # 3 – Marriage Doesn’t Just Happen, It Needs To Be Nurtured

My third mentor was someone that I’ve never met.  

Fast forward 7 years and 5 kids later… Melis was learning how to farm and I was learning how to be a Mom (and in some seasons a single Mom). This season was very taxing on our marriage and we were very unhappy…

It all came to a head one day when we sat outside our favourite restaurant and shared our pain and frustration. We knew we really needed help.

That’s when I found my first marriage mentor after reading Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley. And although I never met Gary Smalley, he impacted our marriage powerfully.

He taught us that conflict could grow our love.

We also learned that if a little bit of support and education could help us fall in love again, it could help other couples.

So 15 years ago we began working with couples to help them have happier, healthier marriages.

Lesson # 4 – Don’t Live Under Limiting Beliefs, Soar Above Them

My next mentor helped me to grow personally…

When my children began to leave home, I started to pray: “Lord, you taught me how to be a mom. You’ve trained me and given me skills and abilities… Now, what do you have for me?”  

I started a mentorship process meeting one-on-one with Cheryl Millman, Director of Open Door Outreach, a non-profit ministry that works with marginalized women.

In the precious time we had together, we prayed, cried and laughed as I dealt with past hurts and limiting beliefs that were keeping me from growing.

Cheryl gave me the opportunity to work through old pain and dream new dreams.

Lesson # 5 –  Pass It On

In 2016, I joined the John Maxwell University and became a certified coach, speaker and trainer. I also gained mentors for business, leadership, coaching and speaking.

Through this program, I’ve really learned the value of mentorship.

Having weekly access to experts has accelerated my growth as a businesswoman, coach and speaker.

My mentors have pushed me to go further than I thought possible. They’ve believed in me, given me resources to stimulate my growth and applied a swift kick when I needed it.

(Note: If you’re interested in learning more about the John Maxwell program, please connect with me here and I’d love to share with you.)

I would not be where I am today without my mentors.

In addition, I’ve also learned that what I’ve received isn’t just for me – I need to share it with others. 

Mentoring is all about passing it on, about turning around and extending a helping hand to someone who else who needs it…

So mentorship isn’t just for me. It’s for you too.

Are you interested in having a mentor?

If so, I would encourage you to check out coaching. Coaching can help you deal with feeling overwhelmed in your life so you can get unstuck.

Imagine waking up without feeling overwhelmed...

It IS possible. Take the first step.Check out coaching today.

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Ann is on a mission to equip Christian women to communicate confidently and clearly for a closer connection. The good news? Communication is a skill so anyone can learn it even if you’re struggling to communicate right now. Want to communicate more clearly and confidently?…

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