Two Mindsets That Keep You From Achieving Your Dream

by | Sep 3, 2019 | Mindset, Personal Growth

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Problem #1 – Too Attached To Your Identity To Dream

Why is it that some people achieve their dreams while others don’t?

I’m sure there’s many reasons but I see two main stumbling blocks that keep the women I work with from achieving their dreams. 

First, is that sometimes we’re too attached to our current identity to let ourselves dream. 

What this looks like is that our identity is so rooted in something that it’s hard for us to imagine ourselves any other way. It could be an identity cemented in our career, where you think: 

“But I’m a teacher” or “I’m a government worker” or “I’m a farmer’s wife.”

Another way we can be held us back is when we see ourselves in a specific way based on our past or personality. Maybe you’ve always thought of yourself as the follower or you don’t believe in your ability to do more or be more because of your family background. 

You might think: “I’ve always been like this”… “Nobody in my family has accomplished this.”

Give Yourself Permission To Dream

Now, if your identity is currently holding you back, I hear you, girl! 

I’ve struggled with this one too and am continuing to wrestle with this one as I intentionally shape and reshape who I am, from a farmer’s wife and mother to a coach and business woman. 

So how do you deal with this challenge?

The first simple step that I want you to take is to give yourself permission to dream. 

Tell yourself that it’s okay to want more. To imagine beyond where you are. Your dream might be to have a better relationship with your kids or your husband. Or maybe your dream is to start a new side hustle to give your family more flexibility and financial freedom. 

Just start dreaming.

But what if you’re simply too afraid to dream?

Problem #2 – Too Afraid To Allow Yourself To Dream

This is a second main struggle that I see women struggling with. 

Fear can take many different faces. You could be afraid of…

  • Being uncomfortable
  • Letting yourself truly dream
  • How your dreams will impact your family
  • How you might need to grow or change
  • Not having what it takes to make your dream a reality 

Fear will use any and every reason to keep you down… 

However, that’s your brain telling you that’s who you are. 

So, I want to interrupt your thoughts and tell you why you were made to dream. 

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Why You Were Made To Dream

I believe that you… 

  • Were made for a purpose on purpose 
  • Have a valuable life
  • Are needed 
  • Have dreams that are a part of your story
  • You were made to create

The bottom line is that I believe your dreams are valuable because God put those dreams in you.

More than that, you were made for a grand adventure. 

Now, you might be thinking, “A grand adventure?? What are you talking about?”

Well, maybe your grand adventure is to have a happy marriage or a happy home life. Or maybe your grand adventure is to be the president of the company… 

Whatever it is, I know one thing for sure — you are meant to dream! 

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Here’s My Big Dream

I’ve shared my dream with you before but here it is again:

My dream is to build a community of women who are passionate about personal growth.

So much so that they’re not satisfied with playing small. In fact, they want to be bigger tomorrow than they are today. And more than that, they also inspire, support and cheer each other on. 

This is a community of women who are bravely living their dreams… the purposes and plans that God has for them and they’re excited about life. 

The result is that they love themselves, their relationships and their lives. 

What do you want to create? What do you want to do? What are the dreams that you’re dreaming? 

I would love to hear about your dreams so send me a message at or through Facebook to let me know what you’re dreaming about.

What are your dreams? We’d love to hear from you! Share in the comments below.

About Ann

Ann’s work is centred on the belief that every woman has purpose. So her mission is to empower a community of women to live their extraordinary lives with joy…

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  1. Joe Grondin

    I LOVE this. You and I have a lot in common. I have developed a keynote entitled “Give Yourself Permission” and one section is to give yourself permission to dream.

    This is very inspirational and I congratulate you in starting these conversations.

    • Ann Visser

      Hi Joe,
      Thanks for your encouraging message! I’ve seen you on YouTube and I love your work! I think dreaming is vital to our health and wellbeing. I look forward to meeting you at Leader2Leader PEI Event in Summerside- Prince Edward Island Nov.21, 2019. This event is open to Leaders and aspiring leaders. Registration is open soon. Stay tuned! Check out Joe’s Ted Talk-

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