5 Barriers That Keep You From Loving Your Story

by | Jan 10, 2019 | Mindset, Personal Growth

Do You Love Your Story?

When someone asks questions to get to know you, do you get excited to tell your unique story because it might encourage others?

Or do you hem and haw, avoiding answering because you don’t believe you have anything worthwhile to share?

Each woman has a valuable and unique story to tell (read blog post here) because you’re co-writing your story with a God who has given you infinite value.

This means that your story has the power to speak to someone and help them… people that my story will never touch.

And that’s why we need your story.

Loving Our Story Is The Fuel For Our Lives

But what if you know your story and you don’t like it? Unfortunately, there’s no dress rehearsal for life. This is it — right now (read more here)!

It’s important to learn to love our stories because they are the motivation, the fuel for our lives.

When we love our stories, it gives us fuel to dream, plan and take action.

So what do we do if we don’t love — or even like — our story?

The first step is to figure out why and there are 5 different barriers that can keep us from embracing our stories…   

1. The Scarcity Barrier

Steven Covey says, “People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me.”

Breaking through that scarcity barrier to developing an abundant mindset where there’s more than enough for everyone can help us to love our stories.

2. The Fear of Failure Barrier

Fear is a normal part of life. But it becomes a barrier when we’re so afraid of making mistakes or messing up that we are too scared to even try. And so we stop taking risks.

This is a barrier because there’s no success without risk and the road to success is paved with many failures along the way. If we’re not failing, then we’re not even trying.

Instead, we need to break through the fear of failure to risk loving our stories… to risk writing our stories.

3. The Comparison Barrier

Comparison is a trap where we feel like we don’t measure up and when we feel like we don’t measure up, we’re creating a negative self-image. Theodore Roosevelt says that “comparison is the thief of joy.”

It’s hard to be excited about our life when we’re too busy wishing we had someone else’s life.  

Another negative side is that when we’re focused on comparing ourselves to others, it’s difficult to celebrate other people’s successes. We need to learn to love our stories so we can pour into other people from a place of confidence, contentment and joy — that’s contagious.  

4. The Resentment Barrer

Brenda Waggoner says: “Resentment is often a woman’s inner signal that she has been ignoring an important God-given responsibility – that of making choices.”

We can begin to feel resentment toward another person when we feel like they’re forcing us to go down a road we don’t want to go. However, sometimes this means that we’ve given away our power to another person and we need to embrace our power to choose.

In the end, resentment only hurts the person carrying this emotion; not the other person, so it’s important to overcome this barrier to foster life-giving emotions in our hearts.

5. The Dream Barrier

This is a tough one where we had dreams and hopes but life hasn’t turned out the way we wanted. Sometimes when we’re not where we wanted to be, we bury our dreams and give up on the hope of our dreams ever coming true.

However, this can make us heartsick and rob us of passion for our lives. We need to learn how to embrace our life and overcome our lost dreams so that we can be intentional about our future.  

What’s Keeping You From Loving Your Story?

Now that you’ve read through the 5 barriers, take a moment to reflect on what could be keeping you from loving your story. Next, find someone who can help you process and overcome this barrier so you can move toward loving your life. 

A coach can provide a safe place to work through and overcome these barriers (Click Here To Learn More). 

Read more from this series:

Part 1: You Have A Valuable And Unique Story To Tell

Part 2: 5 Barriers That Keep You From Loving Your Story (this post)

Part 3: It’s Your Choice: Are You Living Your Story?

Part 4: The World Will Miss Out If You Don’t Lead From Your Story

About Ann

Ann’s work is centred on the belief that every woman has purpose. So her mission is to empower a community of women to live their extraordinary lives with joy…

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